In my experience one of the biggest causes of pain and suffering is when you want someone to be different than who they really are.
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” – Maya Angelou
There are people that will never be able to take responsibility for their actions.
There are people that will always blame others.
There are people that will dismiss and gaslight you about your feelings.
There are people that will never do what’s right, only what’s convenient, easy, and popular.
You can’t change this, it’s completely out of your power. But, what you DO have power over is whether these people are in your life or to what capacity they are a part of your life.
BTW…
There are also people out there who do the right thing even when it’s inconvenient, uncomfortable, and unpopular.
There are people out there who stand up for themselves and others to bullies.
There are people out there who honor and respect others who speak their truth even when it’s uncomfortable. Make sure you let those people know how grateful you are for them in your life.